3d Athletics will be sharing the perspectives of some of our athletes in our newly featured BLOG posts from parents, players, and all associated with our training program.
"The 2013-2014 High School season begins in less than a week! Being able to come together with my team to start practice, preparing for this journey over the next few months is an exciting feeling. Our team's main goal is winning a Long Island Championship with hopes of an opportunity to compete for a New York State Championship. In order to achieve our goals, it requires hard work, sacrifice, and a commitment to each other. It's going to be tough, however, I know that all of the hours in the gym with the team will be worth it at season's end."
Who is the The Basketball Dad? I am a married, full-time working father of three kids, who’s always in pursuit of finding ways to keep my kids motivated and inspired, in the hopes that my efforts will bring out the best in all that they do.
I can tell you that this is no easy task to accomplish! In fact it’s nearly impossible sometimes. But as the old saying goes, ‘It’s not the destination; it’s the journey that matters most!’ I have to remind myself of this often.
The focus of this monthly blog will be to share my experiences as a parent of young athletes, and discuss my successes and failures in maintaining the balance between family, school, athletics, and some sort of social life for my kids that does not include Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram!
In addition to sharing my personal experiences I plan on sharing articles, web links, and book recommendations that I find helpful to me in this endeavor, and I hope that you may find them valuable to you as well.
I do not profess to be an expert by any means, and my goal is not to offer advice through this blog. Lord knows that I sometimes struggle to maintain the “Life Balance” described above.
But what I’ve come to realize is that many of us Basketball Dad’s and Mom’s alike, share the same goals, dreams, and anxieties when it comes to athletics for our kids, but we don’t often discuss them because perhaps we assume that it's ‘JUST US’ going through these things. For example, we may be asking ourselves;
Am I pushing too hard?
Should my kid be training as much as some of the other kids?
How do other parents and coaches inspire young athletes?
What should I say, or not say, on the car ride home after games!
Some other concerns parents may have…
“I just want her to have fun.”
“He never wants to work at it.”
“She’s great in practice, but she can’t seem to do it in the games.”
“She has no confidence.”
“How do we find the right team/coach/trainer to play for?”
My hope is that this blog will give us all something to consider when it comes to questions like these for our young athletes.
Truth is we’re all after the same thing, which is finding ways to instill confidence, build skills and inspire our young athletes in the sport they love, while keeping ourselves and our kids ‘balanced’ at the same time.
The Basketball Dad
The challenges that we face as athletes is finding a true balance in our lives both academically and athletically. We become more attractive to our environment when this balance has been achieved. You will find that an education will keep you grounded as a person and allow your mind to experience challenges that are often overlooked athletically. This balance will improve your growth as an athlete in your critical thinking abilities, awareness, and more importantly, your confidence in making decisions on the court. All of which are often bypassed when creating a plan to improve your skills as a player. We tend to forget how important the mind is in allowing us to achieve our goals and continue to grow.
As you move toward the culmination of the school year, remind yourself how important it is to complete the task at hand and prioritize your responsibilities both academically and athletically. These lessons will help you in life as you will continue to be faced with decisions that will be increasing difficult as the years progress.
The AAU period has officially begun for the Spring 2013 season. Be mindful of where your game stands at this point of the year. November approaches rather quickly. It is important to understand that in order to develop, one must be aware of where you are right now and where you want to be 3 months from now, 6 months from now, and 1 year from today.
As you travel, whether it is a local tournament or one that requires more travel time, understand that each game that you play must follow with some time of reflection. A time that one can take in the points of pleasure in the game along with the time of discrepancies. The cognitive element of the game will allow the physical to improve rapidly once one has increased their awareness in a realistic matter.
Of the countless hours of training and workouts that you have taken on by yourself, at home or in the gym, use this as a motive to work as hard as possbile to improve each time you compete.
Players alike, find this time of the season to be taxing on the mind as well as the body. The push to earn a spot for the post-season is in full swing. Essentially, the pressure continues to increase each game for those still in the hunt. What are you doing to maximize your performance? Are you taking in the right foods pre and post practice? Are you resting properly? With respect to practice, are you properly engaged in your warm-up mentally and physically, providing an appropriate amount of time to prepare? All of these factors are entered into the equation of finding success on the court.
Assess your pre-practice and pre-game preparation. Ask yourself if you feel that you are maximizing your potential at providing a quality performance.